You aren’t really against bullying

By now you’ve probably seen this one of its varients about a thousand times on The Internet:

A 15 year old girl, holds hands with her 1 year old son. People call her a slut, no-one knows she was raped at 13. People call a girl fat, noone knows she has a serious disease which causes her to be over weight. People call an old man ugly, noone knows he had a serious injury to his face while he was…fighting in the war. Make this your status if your against bullying & stereotyping, bet none of you will?

Every time I read it, I get really angry because of what it stands for. This isn’t a message against bullying, it’s a message against bullying people who don’t deserve it.

People call a girl fat, noone knows she has a serious disease which causes her to be over weight.

So what does this mean? If the girl didn’t have a serious disease it would be fine to call her fat? Is it fine to pick on someone because they don’t have an excuse to be overweight? Why does this chick have an obligation to other people to keep her weight down. All this is doing is lowering the self-esteem of girls who perceive themselves to be overweight (notice I didn’t say actually are overweight, the first group is much larger than the second).

The other lines aren’t any better. Any  15 year old that has a child clearly has serious issues with their life and needs sympathy, not judgement. And people calling an old guy ugly?  Who does that, how petty could you get?

Just to clarify, in case I’ve been unclear, the wording of this message, or whatever you want to call it, says that bullying these people is justified until it’s found out that they have a good reason for being the way they are.

The last sentence is the one that makes me the most angry though.

Make this your status if your against bullying & stereotyping, bet none of you will?

Ok, for a start that is poor grammar. It’s not a question, it’s a request so it shouldn’t have a question mark there. Secondly, it says that reposting this will somehow put you on the side of good and against bullying. I’m sick of these things on Facebook where saying that support something is substitute for actually actually supporting something. Take the week where everyone changed their pictures to cartoons to take a stand against child abuse. How exactly does changing your picture do anything at all about child abuse? Re-posting this wont do a single thing about bullying, in fact it’ll make it worse because of the flawed aesop.

This is how I think it should go:

A fifteen year old girl holds her one year old son and people call her a slut. Nobody cares about how hard her life is and helps her. People call a girl fat, and miss meeting the person who could have been her best friend. People call an old man ugly, instead of talking to him and learning about all the extraordinarily things that have happened in this life. Pass this on if you want to, but more importantly, show kindness to others, even when you find them distasteful.

But then again, I find all of these dime a dozen sentimental statements to be annoying anyway.


My Driving Adventure

People, sit down. Because last week I went to a party. Yes, I can hear you exclaiming from here.

At 8 I got picked up by my BFF Leah and she took me down. I navigated from the directions she downloaded from Google Maps and she drove and we got to the party in 25 minutes.

Unlike me, Leah has a job and she had to be there pretty early the next morning, so we worked out that we would have to leave the party at  6:30 in the morning to get there. Not that we let that tiny detail stop us! Oh no, we stayed up until 3:30 that morning having a great time before everyone who was staying the night went to bed.

This may have affected our cognitive processes, because in the morning Leah and I drove in the complete wrong direction to where we were supposed to be going. If you drew a straight line from where we were supposed to be going, to where we started and kept on going, that is where we went. Luckily we decided that nothing looked familiar (remember that when we came up it was dark so we didn’t know what any of the land marks looked like) and turned around. Unluckiily for us, after we turned around we still didn’t see any landmarks that we knew.

I’d like to take a moment to point out that I want to follow all the signs that said where we wanted to get to was only 30km away. Leah, however, was the driver and she wanted us to follow the path that we were ‘meant’ to be travelling. So after a quick call from her step dad, we got back on the right path. Except either her step dad was wrong or we were so tired that she got the wrong end of the stick, because Leah though he told her to go back the way we came. The wrong way. So off we went again! And I gotta say, we got pretty far before her mum called and and set her going the right way again. Much further than we went the first time.

And THAT is how you make a 25 minute car trip last 2 hours.